Ceremony and ritual form a large part of our modern lives. It is an ancestral part of us that we have carried forwards throughout the ages. It is in our very bones. Today we see our main ceremonies and rituals during times of birth, union and death. With celebrations, such as christenings, birthdays, weddings and funerals, among others. But is there more that we can weave into our lives? Can ceremony and ritual form a basis for healing our souls?
The following is an excerpt from the book 'The Wild Edge of Sorrow' by Francis Weller. This is a excellent book for further discovery into griefwork and I highly recommend it. At the end of this post is a link if you wish to purchase it and dive deeper.
"It is in the sacred space of ritual that we are most able to acknowledge the weight of the grief we carry. We have, in modern culture, little understanding of the ways ritual works or how it can move us into a space capable of fully releasing our long-held sorrows.
We are creatures of ritual. We have been using rituals for tens of thousands of years. Ancient burial sites include careful placement of artefacts with the dead, such as bones carved and covered with ochre, pieces of flint for the hunt in the next world, food, and ornamented beads. In fact, grief over loss of a loved one many have elicited our first ritual actions. There is something about ritual that resonates deep in the bone. It is a "language older than words," relying not so much on speech as on gestures, rhythms, movements, and emotion. In this sense, ritual addresses something far more primal than language."
So how does bringing ceremony and ritual into our grief help us to move forward on our path? It gives us many benefits, but most of all it bringing us into a space of being completely present within our sorrows. It gives us that safe and held space so that we can bring this fully into our whole being and to embrace it with love. Grief is a reflection of our love and therefore is not an object in the shadows that we should fear. Ceremony and Ritual also brings you into a shared space, gives a feeling of community and companionship. You are not facing this alone. When people join together in this way the power held in these events is amplified and the burden shared. With this a sense of belonging can be achieved, invoking further soul support. We then find that we also, through this process, gain the opportunity to give our grief meaning. This can change and evolve with each ceremony and ritual. We can impart gratitude, forgiveness, celebrate and honour to our grief and losses in what ever form they have come to us.
Where there is sorrow, there is holy ground.
~ Oscar Wilde
Ceremony and Ritual with griefwork, is something that I have become deeply passionate about and has been a big part of my own personal griefwalk experience. If you would like to find out more about any Ceremony and Ritual events that are coming up, please look at the Events Page by Clicking this Link. If you would prefer to work with me on a One to One basis then you can get in touch via the Contact Page.
As always I do deeply appreciate your input into this blog and welcome your comments and feedback. I would love to hear if you have any Ceremonies or Rituals that you have either have created or use for your journey with grief.